Topic for Today - Relationships

If we have to be apart (from adults, children and babies)

Today we want to talk about when we have to be apart.

To stay safe, to slow and stop this virus, we are having to create physical distance between ourselves and others.  This is hard.  As the lock down continues there will be some very difficult days, days when we are apart from those we love most, and in some cases, parted from them while we, or they, are ill.

Feeling sad, crying, feeling lost and alone are all completely normal.  We are human, under normal conditions it is our job to be together and care for one another.  But, these are not normal times, and so for now, we must work out the best possible ways to do this while we are living in different homes.

So, can we make a few suggestions that might help:

  • Use technology - use your phone, use social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, WhatsApp, etc.) and stay in touch with the people that mean most.

  • Share information - about what you are doing each day and on your plans and how you are feeling - if you can, share photos so you can see each other and what is happening.  Maybe think of it as a sharing diary.  Staying involved in each other’s lives will help us all transition when we can come back together again.  It also lessens the feelings of grief that can come when we miss others deeply.

  • Create special time - maybe a regular slot every day or week, to sit down and have a conversation, maybe by phone, facetime, zoom or some other app.  Build it into your routine and know that you have that to look forward to.

  • Share with each other what you love and appreciate most - Tell them how you miss reading in bed together on a Sunday morning or reading them a bedtime story as you tuck them in, meeting at your favourite coffee shop for a cinnamon bun, watching TV together, their smile, their laugh, sharing the last chocolate biscuit. 

  • Do what you can - make something, send something, plan a funny surprise!  Think about what you can do now to make that other person or group or family, smile. Music, dance, a letter or picture can say so much, and go a long way to bridge the physical gap between us.

  • Make some plans for when this is all over - what will the top three things you do together be?

We want to mention those of you who are apart from tiny children.   Babies will be born that you can’t go to see or hug right now.  This will be heart breaking, but we are doing this to keep them and others safe.  You can still create and build connection with tiny ones.  Babies recognise voices even when they are too young to see properly, so take time and talk.  Phones can be put on loud speaker, babies can be held while you facetime, and you can talk right to them.  What about reading them a story from a distance? you can still be there for bedtime, or what about a morning nursery rhyme time when you can sing together? - we just all need to get a little more creative


Ok, well those are our thoughts for today, take care, stay safe, well, kind, creative and connected!

Don’t go out if we don’t absolutely need to (i.e. for food basics), keep a safe distance (2 meters) from the other people around us. Keep smiling, waving and talking. Wash hands and avoid touching faces when out and about. 

Anything we can do to stop and slow the virus is keeping more of us safe and literally saving lives. 

If you have symptoms, stay inside and contact 111 or the website to get more advice.

Look forward to speaking again soon (Tomorrow we will be talking about Safety Planning)

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